Learning to be alone or: Getting lonely?

Our generation is wild. So many requirements from society. Be chatty, go out, meet friends, enjoy your hobbies. Everything is about being present and active. Even social media. Don‘t get me wrong. I enjoy all of these things. But most of the time, I just want to be alone. In my own little bubble, all by myself. Like charging my social battery to do all of this above. Even to be capable of doing these things. Exhausted from everything. From life outside, staying in my safe place. But how can it be so ambivalent? The need of going out, but also just would like to stay in. Communicating with no one. Some say it’s a task or something you have to learn, to be alone. For me it’s the easiest thing ever. But deep down there is a fear in me. Being alone now is my choice, but what if someday it isn’t a choice anymore and it turns into loneliness. So sealed off, no one gets to you. Physically and mentally.

Sanity Media is a place to post your increasingly unhinged thoughts

has anyone noticed that a lot of these posts are trending toward the unhinge? Has anyone noticed that many of the media we consume now seems to trend towards the unhinged?

Sanity Media began this trend early on! We are the pioneers of unhinged. If you are interested in posting unhinged media, Sanity Media is the place to do it

#My most horrfyingly embarassing and by far toxic trait

I love this website because really only so few of my friends visit it I could just use it to vent to the world. like a little personal diary.

I have this horrible toxic trait of like, sometimes looking up people in my past life to see how their shitty decisions or shitty behavior has led to their lives turning out. Are they as miserable as I imagine they are? sometimes I watch them and through their facial expressions or little clues on their social media and make up little stories about how they're really doing

But I realize this is a toxic trait that I NEED to stop. Doing shit like this will not make my life better, it'll only hold me behind. I need to ignore those people, like they're from my past life. They're dead. Who cares. Work on your own life and trying to drive yourself forward. Why am I obsessed with the dead?

Someone, send me your therapist please. But yeah, definitely need to work on that...where do I start?

Pioneer Academics: the worst, most unethical employer I have ever worked for in my life

it wouldn't be an understatement to say that Pioneer academics is an unethical employer. They openly are emotionally abusive to their employees. By signing up for Pioneer academics and paying them money, you're actively supporting abuse of human beings.

I can't believe that Oberlin College would actively partner with an organization that is abusive to their employees. Furthermore I find this type of behavior from academic professors also deplorable. Like they are not even doing research themselves on the type of company they are with.

the environment is very hawkeyed, they monitor your every move. They first start out by dehumanizing you. You can never refer to yourself as apart from the company, you always must refer to yourselves in align with the company. They make it clear to you very early on that you're replaceable and not a person. They treated you like children and gave such easy tasks but would not trust you with any individuality to choice making. I remember working for them, and when I met the professors I would immediately shrink away from them because I had felt so worthless and horrible: the management at Pioneer Academics will constantly reinforce this idea. That you are replaceable and not a person.

It is not explicitly stated, but they require you to be available 24/7 for meetings. There were often times I would be notified of a meeting 1 hour or sometimes even less...

Let it go by Elsa the Icequeen

A few days ago my boss told me „to let go“. Like don’t be too harsh to myself and others. Especially the children at my workplace. I think he meant something like don’t feel responsible for everyone and everything. But how can I do this if I have this feeling in my gut that I can do better than a lot of other colleagues. It’s like finding a thin line between responsibility and let five be straight (weird to translate German sayings into English). I’m really trying my best and I know I‘m really good at my job, but it leaves me exhausted at hell. So as part of a homework for myself I try to let it go. Leave the opportunity for others to do shit I always do.

It all comes down to being overworked

I am really shocked by various different governments' denial of this problem. Look it all comes down to being overworked. the crisis of population (less people being born) which is a part of the problem of pensions essentially being a ponzi scheme, obesity and health problems in the world. It all comes down to being overworked.

I remember watching a documentary about how Japan was having this problem that nobody there was dating, getting married, having kids. This is a problem as there are not enough people to pay for pensions for those who are retired as less and less people are born into the world. The government was trying all different methods in order to increase dating and reproduction in the Japanese population. The odd thing, is that even though they held all these events for people to meet each other, all they would have to do is interview people to realize the cause of the problem. Nobody had time to date. Everyone was overworked. If you're leaving your house at 8am and coming home at 10pm every night it's no wonder you don't have time to date. how could you? it would be insane to think otherwise.

As for Obesity: this is also a problem of being overworked and lack of time. Dude for real, I think the general population/society is way too mean to fat people. it's not their fault. it's society and we are just directing our anger to the wrong place. You think those guys want to be overweight, have health problems, and be gene...

How I Maintained a Regular Exercise Regime for Over 2 Years

Let me tell you a bit about myself. In my other post, I talked about how I went from being a carb-addicted maniac to eating high-protein foods and thriving from it!

Well, another thing you might not know about me, which is a common trait among all of us humans, is the natural tendency we have to avoid exercise. I read 'Exercised' by Daniel Lieberman, and I really recommend this book to anyone else that hates exercise. I found it really motivating and not at all condescending towards those who did not exercise regularly or didn't like it. The long story short is that exercise was something we basically never evolved to do because it expends precious calories. However, as our society evolved and calories became abundant, we, as humans, never really adapted to this as we are still "evolved" to conserve calories. So, knowing this made me feel a lot less guilty about my exercise-aversion.

What really motivated me to start exercising regularly was having a goal that felt genuinely important and came from within me. During the time that I decided to participate in regular exercise, it was during the pandemic, and I was starting to feel sluggish from the lack of movement while being in lockdown. I also was doing something very difficult and mentally taxing at this time: I was learning a new language. I needed to learn it to at least B2 proficiency, fluent in other words. This was not at all an easy task, as any of you w...

How I Managed My Hunger and Improved My Diet

The saying, "You are what you eat," rings true when it comes to our health. The food we consume fuels everything we do, be it work, hobbies, or day-to-day living. Whether it's mental acuity or physical strength you're after, it all traces back to your diet.

If you're still not convinced, let me share my food journey with you.

I didn't always have a problem with my diet. Like many of us, I grew accustomed to my eating habits. If there didn't seem to be any immediate issues with my diet, why should I bother fixing something that wasn't broken?

My dietary journey began when I started researching blue zones – areas where people tend to live exceptionally long lives. My partner and I were intrigued to discover that most residents of these zones followed primarily vegetarian diets, with occasional additions of meat or fish. Noticing this, we decided to incorporate mostly vegetarian foods into our meals. Although I've oscillated between vegetarianism and veganism over the years, I often felt very hungry on these diets. In fact, when I resumed a vegetarian diet, I wasn't feeling my best and noticed increased hunger compared to when I was on an omnivorous diet.

The next phase of my journey was prompted by an unexpected change. Despite not gaining a significant amount of weight after switching my diet, I felt softer, as if I was losing muscle and gaining fat. Dissatisfied with this shift, I turned to the advice of Stephen Zimm, a prof...

I finished my first self-published book today and it was awful

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Okay, honestly, I'm all for self-publishing. I think it's really cool that there are people out there who maybe didn't train as writers for half their lives but can still get their story out there. However, I think there is some merit as well behind publishing houses. They edit your books so that you don't end up publishing incoherent garbage.

Anyways, I read Private Dancer by Stephen Leather. I also happen to be Thai and my family also happens to be from the Isaan region, a place which he really just tears apart in his book. He essentially depicts us as incestuous, unfeeling, barbaric, uneducated, unwilling to change, lazy etc. The fact that this book was so highly touted by the Bangkok Post and others is really shameful. I guess the foreigners aren't depicted as really the good guys either though, so I guess in a sense, Stephen Leather just hates everybody.

Other than that, the writing is....bad. Really overly dramatic, changing the perspective is a weak veil over Stephen's poor writing skills. All in all, I can see why it didn't get that good of a rating on good reads. I actually didn't even realize that it was a self published book until the very end, and then upon realization, well....everything made sense. Ugh it's...it's so bad

Why France sucks - a serious post/talk about a topic everyone else refuses to speak about

Intro

yeah, I get it. Hating a country is pretty controversial nowadays, especially in the woke era. And to be clear, I think racial injustice/gender inequality are totally valid things to speak about (and in fact will be the two things I discuss here), but I fear we have gone into the opposite direction: basically now we can't criticize anything. It appears, at least to me, nuanced is dead, and you're either far right or far left. I think rather, we should be able to criticize things otherwise you come out with people who go way the opposite of the spectrum (dudes like Andrew Tate).

Why am I qualified to talk about this? I lived in France for 3 years, so yeah, I have some experience. I lived in both Paris and the south in Nice, and I promise you this is not just a "Paris" problem. I will post some links to other articles too, to make my point.

Racism

if you're not white or black (and a man), stay the fuck out of France, because you will have a really bad time. Hell even if you are white and black, make sure you don't get caught in the "wrong" hood. I have heard from many colleagues about the harassment they can receive if you enter the wrong neighborhood, with many people usually shouting at you but also there is a real risk of getting jumped.

When I lived in France, I literally could not leave my house for a single day without having racist remarks shouted at me. Not. A....